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How does it feel to have a thriving relationship? Have you found your way towards living a fulfilling life with your soul mate?
I observe a rising number of people, dear to me, who are struggling to find a perfect lasting partnership. These are awesome individuals who are living alone against their choice. What they all have in common is this deep wish to share ups and downs with someone. They wish to give their lives more purpose by caring for someone special, by being cared for, and simply taste that mutual acceptance and love. Most of us know such people, yet it doesn’t seem like we know how to help them, right? |
While a few people may be currently completely happy with simply living alone and soothing painful scars of the past relationships, or for other more practical reasons, and that is completely OK, one can’t neglect that we are human beings, and therefore naturally social beings who have this internal need to share life experience and matter to someone.
What exactly is stopping you from going further in your search? Is it really the lack of possibly interesting and compatible potential partners in the area that you live, or is it your fear of dedicating your precious time to a wrong person again? Is it that you are being discouraged because of your age, or looks or current financial situation?
Are you afraid of not having enough to give? Are you thinking that, maybe, all the good ones are already taken?
What are your current beliefs about yourself and the world around you that may be stopping you from seeking and actively creating new opportunities for opening up to people?
Now is your time to start writing the list of qualities that you’d like to find in your ideal future partner. Take that time. Offer it to yourself.
Once you have completed this list, ask yourself if you already posses these qualities. Are you able to deliver the same for your future partner?
If your list contains a quality that you think you could improve in yourself, I suggest that you start reading about it and train yourself in that skill until you feel confident and until you achieve the right result.
The reason I am suggesting this is that we often focus our attention onto what we want, hence we forget the importance of what we are bringing in exchange.
If you wish that your future partner would be available whenever you’d need them, are you willing to do the same? If you wish that they’d listen, are you a good listener? What ever is there, explore everything you wrote and then work on each detail that you can, simply thinking that you are improving yourself for you want to be ready to meet someone special when he or she comes around.
Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you walk your path towards knowing yourself better. Ask a friend to support you, or find a local counselor who will provide you with more detailed steps to help you boost your self confidence. You will be able to build up your positive view on the world and your current situation, and you will accelerate your learning.
If you are convinced that life can be better, then go for it, and if you have your persistent doubts, let yourself get convinced by those who think and know differently.